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Mums.. Forced to work as if they don’t have children, supposed to raise children as if they don’t go to work! Am I right? 

And if you’re lucky enough you’ll get  a right treat on pay day, oh yes, a side order of the inexplicable expense that is childcare. 

God forbid you actually get the opportunity to enjoy what you do, nearly impossible isn’t it, with the aftermath of a sleepless night and shit stains on your clothes that you happened to catch whilst potty training.

When you first arrive back after maternity leave you’re almost

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craving the excitement of adult conversation and the sound of keyboards tapping, then you realise you’re brain is full of cotton wool and your tired eyes are no longer made for looking at screen 7+ hours a day. After work drinks are no longer part of your Friday routine and the idea of planning them 4 weeks in advance makes you feel even more frumpy. 

Your boss probably doesn’t understand, or isn’t prepared to get on board with flexible home working, so when your little darling is ill you chance it and phone in sick for yourself in

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stead. 

That goes down like a lead balloon, as didn’t you know they’ve brought in ‘Bradford Factors’ everywhere now. If you’re going to have a day off you may as well have a week off, as you’ll be reprimanded and brought to the sickness absence court of justice in the same way! 

You return to work a week later only to realise you’ve now picked up a sickness bug of your own, but you can’t possibly have any more time off so you struggle in, giving every other poor fucker a heavy dose of the shits.

You can’t wait to get home,

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only for your baby to completely dismiss you when you walk through the door. Like a dog who’s been left in kennels all week and is purposely smiting it’s owner.

Despite all this, you want to keep your job. You need work for your sanity!  It’s something that’s yours and for you only. That little bit of you left that’s not 100% mother. 

One week your childminder lets you down and you need a day off, strike number 2. At the end of the year you’ve got god knows how many strikes and maybe even an absence related disciplinary hanging over

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you, but you’re still working from home in the evenings and on weekends in secret, in a busy attempt at trying to keep up, between nappy changes and Peppa Pig.

This is reality for so many parents. And it’s now time employers everywhere, worldwide, caught up. Part timers, mothers, dads, are not second class citizens! They are just people trying to get on in a corporate world that is still stuck in the misogynistic view of Don Draper in the 1950s! Women were made for more than just making babies and doing laundry, and guess what? Dad’s actually

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like spending time with their kids too you know! 

Wake up employers, life will not wait for you, and you may lose good employees who want to work, all because you don’t trust them to refrain from Facebook and Jeremy Kyle whilst working from home in their pyjamas! Mums then go back to the stone age of giving up their jobs because they can’t afford childcare and the unnecessary cycle continues. 

It calls for change, and the time is now. 

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- 8 Jan 19

Mums.. Forced to work as if they don’t have children, supposed to raise children as if they don’t go to work! Am I right? 

And if you’re lucky enough you’ll get  a right treat on pay day, oh yes, a side order of the inexplicable expense that is childcare. 

God forbid you actually get the opportunity to enjoy what you do, nearly impossible isn’t it, with the aftermath of a sleepless night and shit stains on your clothes that you happened to catch whilst potty training.

When you first arrive back after maternity leave you’re almost craving the excitement of adult conversation and the sound of keyboards tapping, then you realise you’re brain is full of cotton wool and your tired eyes are no longer made for looking at screen 7+ hours a day. After work drinks are no longer part of your Friday routine and the idea of planning them 4 weeks in advance makes you feel even more frumpy. 

Your boss probably doesn’t understand, or isn’t prepared to get on board with flexible home working, so when your little darling is ill you chance it and phone in sick for yourself in stead. 

That goes down like a lead balloon, as didn’t you know they’ve brought in ‘Bradford Factors’ everywhere now. If you’re going to have a day off you may as well have a week off, as you’ll be reprimanded and brought to the sickness absence court of justice in the same way! 

You return to work a week later only to realise you’ve now picked up a sickness bug of your own, but you can’t possibly have any more time off so you struggle in, giving every other poor fucker a heavy dose of the shits.

You can’t wait to get home, only for your baby to completely dismiss you when you walk through the door. Like a dog who’s been left in kennels all week and is purposely smiting it’s owner.

Despite all this, you want to keep your job. You need work for your sanity!  It’s something that’s yours and for you only. That little bit of you left that’s not 100% mother. 

One week your childminder lets you down and you need a day off, strike number 2. At the end of the year you’ve got god knows how many strikes and maybe even an absence related disciplinary hanging over you, but you’re still working from home in the evenings and on weekends in secret, in a busy attempt at trying to keep up, between nappy changes and Peppa Pig.

This is reality for so many parents. And it’s now time employers everywhere, worldwide, caught up. Part timers, mothers, dads, are not second class citizens! They are just people trying to get on in a corporate world that is still stuck in the misogynistic view of Don Draper in the 1950s! Women were made for more than just making babies and doing laundry, and guess what? Dad’s actually like spending time with their kids too you know! 

Wake up employers, life will not wait for you, and you may lose good employees who want to work, all because you don’t trust them to refrain from Facebook and Jeremy Kyle whilst working from home in their pyjamas! Mums then go back to the stone age of giving up their jobs because they can’t afford childcare and the unnecessary cycle continues. 

It calls for change, and the time is now. 

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Diva Mum

30 year old boxing fan, ska lover, over thinker, tea drinker, over sharer & over swearer. Loves: my child (obviously) moaning, beach walks, mulled wine and writing!

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