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I’m a working mum… not a bad mum

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The weekend is nearly here. Weekends are my favourite part of the week, 2 whole days with my husband and son. Time for trips out, messy play at home if the weather is bad, seeing friends, eating out or cooking together and eating in; time for us.

The other 5 days of the week I am at work and so is my husband. I work from 9-5 in an office, my son and I leave the house at before 8am and he is dropped to either Granny or nursery. By the time I get home we have one hour together before he goes to bed. My evenings consist of more work, internet shopping,

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internet food shopping and generally squeezing as much life admin into the hours between his bedtime and mine so that the weekends are just for us.

I saw a Facebook post this week, a mum was trash talking about mums like me; according to this woman her children had a better bond with her because they were with her all of the time. According to her if her child spent all of his / her time with other people this would somehow mean her child would love her less.

Let me tell you, that woman is wrong.

My son loves the bones of his mummy and his

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daddy. He is as happy as the day is long, provided he has a full tummy and space to run he’s delighted. What delights him even more is if Mummy / Daddy / Granny / Pappy / Nursery friends are there to share in his life too.

He asks for Pappy everyday, he tells me his friend “Dorge” is waiting at nursery, he points out the window and tells me “daddy work” on a daily basis. He waves me goodbye and says “bye bye mummy you work now” as he runs excitedly to his grandparents or his nursery.  He runs just as excitedly back into the house at

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night to his mummy and his daddy.

The fact he has more people to love and care for him in his life means he has a love for all of us. His love is not a fixed amount measured and doled out in portions; the more we all put into him, the more we all get out.

As a working Mum I may not spend as many hours with my son  as a non working mum does with her child/ren;  this doesn’t mean I love my son less and it certainly doesn’t mean my son loves me less.

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- 1 Mar 19

The weekend is nearly here. Weekends are my favourite part of the week, 2 whole days with my husband and son. Time for trips out, messy play at home if the weather is bad, seeing friends, eating out or cooking together and eating in; time for us.

The other 5 days of the week I am at work and so is my husband. I work from 9-5 in an office, my son and I leave the house at before 8am and he is dropped to either Granny or nursery. By the time I get home we have one hour together before he goes to bed. My evenings consist of more work, internet shopping, internet food shopping and generally squeezing as much life admin into the hours between his bedtime and mine so that the weekends are just for us.

I saw a Facebook post this week, a mum was trash talking about mums like me; according to this woman her children had a better bond with her because they were with her all of the time. According to her if her child spent all of his / her time with other people this would somehow mean her child would love her less.

Let me tell you, that woman is wrong.

My son loves the bones of his mummy and his daddy. He is as happy as the day is long, provided he has a full tummy and space to run he’s delighted. What delights him even more is if Mummy / Daddy / Granny / Pappy / Nursery friends are there to share in his life too.

He asks for Pappy everyday, he tells me his friend “Dorge” is waiting at nursery, he points out the window and tells me “daddy work” on a daily basis. He waves me goodbye and says “bye bye mummy you work now” as he runs excitedly to his grandparents or his nursery.  He runs just as excitedly back into the house at night to his mummy and his daddy.

The fact he has more people to love and care for him in his life means he has a love for all of us. His love is not a fixed amount measured and doled out in portions; the more we all put into him, the more we all get out.

As a working Mum I may not spend as many hours with my son  as a non working mum does with her child/ren;  this doesn’t mean I love my son less and it certainly doesn’t mean my son loves me less.

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