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Tell yourself the truth.

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What is our truth?

We have become so accustomed to society sending subliminal messages and influencing our decisions that, for many of us, they go against what our real inner truth is.  Decisions we would ordinarily make easily become difficult, it becomes a game of second guessing and then we are left wondering and obsessing if we made the right one. This applies to everyone and not just parenthood.  We are so overwhelmed with images of the ’picture perfect’ life that the decisions we make can often be made as a result of what we feel we

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’should’ be doing as opposed to what we really want to be doing. This continuous comparison of what you see and what feel you should (a) be doing, (b) be feeling, or (c) look like, can often have a negative impact on your emotional well – being.

On a conscious level,  we know that this isn’t ’real life’ and that it’s only a snapshot, a poisoned chalice of the truth behind the screen, yet we scroll and subconsciously set ourselves standards that we feel we should live up to.

But why?

Arguably, it all leads to the same thing: what we want

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people to think or to believe to be true about who we are and what we have.

I love Instagram, I find it a great platform to share my journey and discuss things that inspire and motivate me. However, at times, I can be sucked into the comparison cycle of doom and it can leave you feeling pretty deflated. It can prompt you to question your own truth and happiness and make you question:

why your decor doesn’t look as ’trendy’
why the food you prepare for your family doesn’t seem as healthy, as organic
why your holidays don’t seem as

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glamorous as those that you’re seeing on line
why, despite you trying, your  waistline doesn’t match up to those on the grid.
why your husband doesn’t buy you extravagant gifts
why you don’t feel comfortable breastfeeding in public.
why your children can’t swim, cycle, or read like those you see on line.
I could go on…

The fact is, what you see on line isn’t the full truth. It’s a glimmer, a quick insight into what may be the best part of a really bad day. But we don’t see this. We see what others want us to see. And that’s

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not real truth.

But it’s hard to remember, so – when this happens, I try to think like this: It’s not about the numbers, the followers, the likes, the comments. It’s about you remembering that your time on social media is a choice and that you are free to like, dislike, follow and unfollow whoever and whatever doesn’t make you feel good.

And remember, other people’s so called truth shouldn’t be an aspiration of yours.

Tell yourself the truth and true happiness will find you.

 

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- 11 Feb 19


What is our truth?

We have become so accustomed to society sending subliminal messages and influencing our decisions that, for many of us, they go against what our real inner truth is.  Decisions we would ordinarily make easily become difficult, it becomes a game of second guessing and then we are left wondering and obsessing if we made the right one. This applies to everyone and not just parenthood.  We are so overwhelmed with images of the ‘picture perfect’ life that the decisions we make can often be made as a result of what we feel we ‘should’ be doing as opposed to what we really want to be doing. This continuous comparison of what you see and what feel you should (a) be doing, (b) be feeling, or (c) look like, can often have a negative impact on your emotional well – being.

On a conscious level,  we know that this isn’t ‘real life’ and that it’s only a snapshot, a poisoned chalice of the truth behind the screen, yet we scroll and subconsciously set ourselves standards that we feel we should live up to.

But why?

Arguably, it all leads to the same thing: what we want people to think or to believe to be true about who we are and what we have.

I love Instagram, I find it a great platform to share my journey and discuss things that inspire and motivate me. However, at times, I can be sucked into the comparison cycle of doom and it can leave you feeling pretty deflated. It can prompt you to question your own truth and happiness and make you question:

  • why your decor doesn’t look as ‘trendy’
  • why the food you prepare for your family doesn’t seem as healthy, as organic
  • why your holidays don’t seem as glamorous as those that you’re seeing on line
  • why, despite you trying, your  waistline doesn’t match up to those on the grid.
  • why your husband doesn’t buy you extravagant gifts
  • why you don’t feel comfortable breastfeeding in public.
  • why your children can’t swim, cycle, or read like those you see on line.
  • I could go on…

The fact is, what you see on line isn’t the full truth. It’s a glimmer, a quick insight into what may be the best part of a really bad day. But we don’t see this. We see what others want us to see. And that’s not real truth.

But it’s hard to remember, so – when this happens, I try to think like this: It’s not about the numbers, the followers, the likes, the comments. It’s about you remembering that your time on social media is a choice and that you are free to like, dislike, follow and unfollow whoever and whatever doesn’t make you feel good.

And remember, other people’s so called truth shouldn’t be an aspiration of yours.

Tell yourself the truth and true happiness will find you.

 

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