The Art of Nothingness

Sarah Jarman - 18 Mar 19

Friday afternoon, 3PM, a cold, wet, windswept playground. ‘Up to much this weekend?’ My friend makes small talk, we don’t have to make small talk, we know each other well, we go drinking together and bitch about the world in general, but at this...

The Spectacular Bullshit of Sleep

Emma While - 13 Mar 19

I don’t know what happens when people start talking about baby sleep but it’s apparently necessary for one’s brain to fall out of one’s ear and then to spout forth as much utter drivel as possible…whilst keeping a straight face and actually believing one’s...

Party Protocol

Sarah Jarman - 25 Feb 19

Birthday parties? What’s the deal? A fun filled, laughter packed day making memories, or a total, time consuming, logistical nightmare? Years ago, in my pre-children, opinion fuelled, youth, I read an article about the schools that insist upon everyone in the class getting invited...

Why I’m Too Selfish To Be A Surrogate Mother

Jennifer Landis - 21 Feb 19

Surrogates are amazing women.  I have the utmost respect for a woman who can carry a baby for nine months and to give that baby away to a loving home at the end of the pregnancy. It’s a life-changing experience, both for the surrogate...

A letter to my first.

@aliceinworryland - 23 Feb 19

Growing up, I’d been fortunate enough to be blessed with siblings and, because of this, I hoped I would be able to have another after Hattie. I wanted her to experience what I had as a child and as an adult: the closeness, the...

THE SLEEP DEPRIVATION BLUES

Anniki Sommerville - 7 Jan 19

It’s funny how you forget the newborn phase. It’s been five years since my first daughter arrived and suddenly with my second, it’s all come flooding back. The first week I felt like a mess body-wise. It was hard to sit down without wincing...

Should I stay or should I go? The affair aftermath.

Ali B - 8 Feb 19

19 days ago, the unthinkable happened. I found out my husband had been having an affair. The shock hit me like a freight train, the disbelief, the horror that I was one of those women. The woman you never want to be, never thought...

‘Team J’

Sarah Jarman - 7 Feb 19

One of my favourite Mama friends greets my children and I the same way every morning. Bedraggled, exhausted, more than ready for half term, it comes as an absolute motivation to hear the words ‘morning Team J’ as we drag our weary arses up...

10 untruths about pregnancy…

Marianne Hill - 9 Dec 14

While I was pregnant it felt like everyone wanted to share their wisdom with me, whether I asked for it or not. Here are 10 things I heard that simply weren’t true:  1. “You look great! You’re blooming!” Of course I didn’t, and no I...

When new mums get angry

Steph Douglas - 16 Aug 16

When you’re pregnant, advice is pointed at you from every direction and the phrase ‘things change you know’ is used a lot by people nodding sagely at you. Something that wasn’t mentioned was that my husband and I would have more rows in those...

When you realise you are the parent of a ten year old

Emma Mitchell - 30 May 18

My daughter recently turned ten. I’ve been wrestling with the feelings that have come with this birthday for a while now. I’m sure to others it’s probably just another birthday, but to me it feels like a bit of a milestone, and a few...

The Myth of The Mum Squad (Or How I Found My Sunshine)

Anna Whitehouse - 19 Sep 17

I was I think, a bad person in the first year of Mae’s life. I would seethe as a mate’s kid started sleeping through the night whilst mine was a foghorn from 2 a.m. to 6 a.m. I was so tired I couldn’t see...

Don’t compare

Harriet Frew - 17 Nov 18

Don’t scrutinise other baby bumps or notice size of thighs or arms; instead, look down and quietly celebrate the growing life inside of you. As you push your beaten, battered buggy down the street, passing by a super-deluxe bugaroo, with matching parasol and blanket,...

Please stop mum-bashing

Molly Gunn - 4 Dec 18

It’s funny in this time of modern feminism, that I even have to write this post. But I’ve noticed recently that ‘mum-bashing’ is rife. As if, by the simple act of having children, then we are fair game to take whatever criticism comes our...

Notes on a naughty boy

Kate Peers - 24 Nov 18

Your child comes home from school telling you about the boy in class who is always in trouble. He can’t sit down and he talks all the time.  Apparently he gets sent to the head teacher quite often too.  He runs off at playtime,...

The Ghost of Me (A Haunting Tale of Postnatal Depression)

Bec Davidson - 24 Oct 18

October 2011 The night of Halloween has descended. I’m in a far away land, riding a bus in my temporary home – Hong Kong. The air is thick with humidity and I can’t catch my breath. I focus on the ethereal blackened smog that...

10 TIPS FOR THE TRICKY FIRST TRIMESTER

Molly Whitehead-Jones - 31 Mar 15

I’m a meticulous planner by nature and when it came to conceiving, things were no different. My husband and I were very careful to not start actively ‘trying’ until we felt financially secure, emotionally mature and otherwise as ready as possible to be parents....

Menopause for Thought

Guilty Mother - 14 Jun 18

Menopause. It feels like a taboo subject when it really doesn’t need to be. No-one seems to talk about it. As I approach forty, I wondered if I should start to think about this or at least talk to some women who have been...

Everything I Know About Anxiety

Clemmie Telford - 10 Jul 17

I published a version of this list some time ago. For the last couple of years, I’ve largely had my anxiety under control. Or rather it hasn’t managed to control me. But this week it came back with a vengeance. Probably something to do...

A Mother’s Mountain

Lou - 11 Sep 18

A mountain to climb, a mountain it’s true. When we sit and make a lists of the things that we do. A mountain to climb, a mountain to climb, how the hell can we do it when theres no bloody time.  Kids, school and...

On parenting and the conspiracy of silence

Beckyboop - 18 Jul 17

I have had the great privilege recently of knowing not one but two families in the early stages of raising twins. Obviously I can’t speak for them – I can’t even imagine the complexity of such a mammoth task – but one thing I...

The Fear

Anniki Sommerville - 14 Nov 18

One of my favourite Ian Brown songs of all time is  ‘F.E.A.R’ – in it he sings about the paralysing impact of fear, how it holds us back, how it’s something we can’t really escape ( I think that’s what he’s singing about- lyrics...

Our Bond; My new superpower

Lisbeth Chilcott - 19 Feb 18

This post is about bonding. Because, I have to make the confession that I did not bond with my baby straight away, for a number of weeks even. It makes me sad now to realise this, but also incredibly grateful to have finally found...

The Sleepover: A Parent’s Worst Nightmare

Site Default - 8 Mar 17

‘Can come for a sleepover, please! Pretty pleeeeeeeeeeease!’ As my two boys get older, I’m beginning to hear this a lot. And I get it. I get that they want to act all grown up and stay up late, turn their...

Why Do Older Mums Get Bad Press?

Anniki Sommerville - 3 Dec 18

I wasn’t sure whether to write this post as I feel tired of the debate around- ‘what age is the right age to have babies?’ It’s another way that society controls women, making them feel guilty and bad about their choices (and let’s face...
Sparkler

Learning to love my body again

Suzy Stanton - 3 Aug 17

Social media is awash at the minute with mothers celebrating their post birth body. They are embracing their lumps, bumps and imperfections because their body created amazing little people. They grew humans inside of them and then brought them into the world to breath...

Ditch the Guilt and add Self-Care

Guilty Mother - 13 Jan 19

When I was pregnant with my first child, people consistently reminded me to take time for self-care. But, in truth, self-care was not even on my radar at the time. I was still sitting at my office desk at forty weeks pregnant and it...

40 thoughts on turning 40

Kate Chapman - 18 Mar 18

What do Frank Lampard, Usher, Nelly Furtado, Nicole Scherzinger, Ashton Kutcher, James Corden, Katie Price and James Franco all have in common? Well, like me, they were all born in 1978. And what a vintage year that was. Grange Hill and Dallas hit TV...

How to raise children who don’t turn out to be complete dicks.

PearlsofKiddom - 24 Jan 18

Before I start; a disclaimer. I haven’t yet raised any children all the way through to adulthood. When you meet my children in 15 years time, if they are complete dicks; you are hereby entitled to contact me and say ‘Well you clearly knew...

Mother’s Ruin

Sarah Jarman - 18 Feb 19

This post is not about gin, though if I were partial to a gin, I would have poured myself an extra-large one yesterday. In...

10 TRUTHS OF MOTHERHOOD

Kate Chapman - 6 Apr 15

* You will learn to love flat shoes – I was given the nickname Imelda Marcos in my previous office and as far as my daily...

BIG AND SMALL FAMILIES (WE LOVE THEM ALL)

One & done

Fiona Behl - 4 Sep 16

Yep, to anyone who wants to ask “no we won’t be having another baby”....

How Many?…….

Rebecca Hurr - 7 Jun 16

As the mother of 5 wonderful children, soon to be 6, why do I...
Dinkel

Is one child just a hobby?

Sarah Wheatley - 15 May 15

There has been a lot of chat recently about what the Duchess of Cornwall...

When one becomes two (and so on)

Georgina Fuller - 28 Apr 15

The flurry of headlines about the imminent arrival of Kate Middleton’s second baby takes me back to...

YES M'AM

Party Protocol

Sarah Jarman - 25 Feb 19

Birthday parties? What’s the deal? A fun filled, laughter packed day making memories, or...

Hello Anxiety Old Pal

Anniki Sommerville - 20 Feb 19

‘Hello Anxiety, how are you today?’  I’m listening to a meditation app on speaker...

My Story Goes On

dramadiesofanexetermum - 9 Feb 19

Last November I had a small tattoo on the inside of my left wrist. ...

SUPER STAR BLOGS

WHAT I KNOW ABOUT BOYS

Site Default - 1 Apr 18

Life with boys is never dull, often messy and always manic. There is never...

Mummy doesn’t feel well.

Kate The Muddled Mum - 14 Dec 17

Mental Illness. It’s still not completely OK to talk about is it? We are...

SM ALL TIME CLASSICS

Mums On the Razz

HurrahforGin - 28 Oct 16

*** Please note that ALL characters and events in this story are completely fictional and any similarities to real life is COMPLETELY coincidental ***...

Why Mum Must Come First (Sometimes)

Gemma Capocci - 13 Dec 16

Depression is a dick. I know this because it has featured in my family’s life in some form or another since I was seven...

“MUM” As a Diss

Lauren Laverne - 3 Jan 16

Bad news, ladyparents. “Mum” is making its way on to the long and terrible list of gender-specific terms of abuse. It’s the thin end...

Parenting Crimes I Have Committed

Clemmie Telford - 30 Sep 16

Before you have a kid you look at people with kids and think ‘i’ll never be like them’. Then you have one and it...

MINDLESS DAYS

Georgina Fuller - 2 Mar 15

So the other day l was driving back from seeing a friend l usually see at least once a week in a town l...

Embracing The Mess

Julia Thompson - 10 Jun 17

I’ve never been on the shortlist (or anywhere near it in fact) for World’s Tidiest House – living with a self-confessed hoarder makes tidiness...

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