Our Bond; My new superpower

Lisbeth Chilcott - 19 Feb 18

This post is about bonding. Because, I have to make the confession that I did not bond with my baby straight away, for a number of weeks even. It makes me sad now to realise this, but also incredibly grateful to have finally found...

Should I Have a Fourth Child?

Hannah Jull - 15 Feb 18

You, I mean – bit late for me to ask that now. After we’d had our third baby, I had been pregnant for 27months out of 58months (aka, pretty much half of the time). I’d been either pregnant, breastfeeding – or both – for 5 years...

The Masks Of Motherhood

Fiona Ng - 3 Feb 18

I’m going to openly admit that up until recently I was the type of mum that would roll my eyes when I saw the ‘gin mums’ on Facebook saying how they were cracking open a bottle after a tough day of looking after the...

How do you get your head around secondary infertility?

Natalie Silverman - 3 Feb 18

At my son’s weekly swimming class one of his pals has moved to the class before him, meaning the little girls Mum doesn’t have to get in the pool. She is heavily pregnant and sits watching. As we wait to start our class and...

How to raise children who don’t turn out to be complete dicks.

PearlsofKiddom - 24 Jan 18

Before I start; a disclaimer. I haven’t yet raised any children all the way through to adulthood. When you meet my children in 15 years time, if they are complete dicks; you are hereby entitled to contact me and say ‘Well you clearly knew...

Not Breastfed, Not Bottlefed, Just Fed.

emiliaandmummy - 20 Jan 18

The ‘feeding’ conversation is one most new mothers will be familiar with, it starts before you even give birth with questions along the lines of ‘do you plan to breastfeed?’ and for most mothers the answer to this is ‘yes’, I fell into that...

I’m crap at multitasking and so are you

Suzy Darke - 4 Dec 17

Women are crap at multitasking. Whatever you think you know about the superiority of the female race and our innate ability to perform more than one task at once is, quite frankly, a debilitating myth. Don’t get me wrong, men are utterly crap at...

The Myth of The Mum Squad (Or How I Found My Sunshine)

Anna Whitehouse - 19 Sep 17

I was I think, a bad person in the first year of Mae’s life. I would seethe as a mate’s kid started sleeping through the night whilst mine was a foghorn from 2 a.m. to 6 a.m. I was so tired I couldn’t see...


Mary-Ellen Krause - 1 Oct 17

Every Three Weeks I Let Cancer Win A Battle

Catherine Wiltcher - 6 Oct 17

On this day, typically the fifth or sixth since my last chemotherapy infusion, every insecurity and unspoken fear of mine wraps their icy fingers around my wrist and drags me deeper and deeper into the abyss. I can’t fight it. I simply don’t have...

How we blitzed the nits

Fiona Pennell - 13 Sep 17

It all started with an itch one morning… ‘Mama! My head won’t stop itching!’ screeched my 5-year-old. He’d woken up in floods of tears and was scratching his scalp rigorously. ‘Don’t worry,’ I reassured him. ‘I’m sure it won’t last.’ But it did. In...

Everything I Know About Anxiety

Clemmie Telford - 10 Jul 17

I published a version of this list some time ago. For the last couple of years, I’ve largely had my anxiety under control. Or rather it hasn’t managed to control me. But this week it came back with a vengeance. Probably something to do...

Learning to love my body again

Suzy Stanton - 3 Aug 17

Social media is awash at the minute with mothers celebrating their post birth body. They are embracing their lumps, bumps and imperfections because their body created amazing little people. They grew humans inside of them and then brought them into the world to breath...

On parenting and the conspiracy of silence

Beckyboop - 18 Jul 17

I have had the great privilege recently of knowing not one but two families in the early stages of raising twins. Obviously I can’t speak for them – I can’t even imagine the complexity of such a mammoth task – but one thing I...

The Sleepover: A Parent’s Worst Nightmare

Fiona Pennell - 8 Mar 17

‘Can come for a sleepover, please! Pretty pleeeeeeeeeeease!’ As my two boys get older, I’m beginning to hear this a lot. And I get it. I get that they want to act all grown up and stay up late, turn their...

Kate Cox - 31 Jan 18

Hi, my name is KTC In July this year I became a mum for the first time. My little monkey is now 6months old and incredibly cute. I thought it might be worthwhile putting pen to paper about what becoming a new Mum has...

Should We Really Just Be Grateful?

Fiona Ng - 7 Feb 18

I learnt something recently which I have dwelled on before however I didn’t really grasp or understand this enough to completely stop myself from...

Baby’s Got Bits: Why Gendered Dolls Shouldn’t Matter

Vicki Edwards - 7 Feb 18

I was in my mid-30s before I said the word ‘vagina’ out loud to a doctor. There was no other way of getting around...


Let’s Talk About Sex

Yvonne Telford - 30 Mar 16

Standing in my kitchen, one of my daughters walks in and asks, “Mummy, what...

Is It Wrong To Fancy Dads?

Anniki Sommerville - 27 Dec 15

I’m not a sex-starved fiend. I’m not a born flirt either. I have a...



Mummy doesn’t feel well.

Kate The Muddled Mum - 14 Dec 17

Mental Illness. It’s still not completely OK to talk about is it? We are...


Mums On the Razz

HurrahforGin - 28 Oct 16

*** Please note that ALL characters and events in this story are completely fictional and any similarities to real life is COMPLETELY coincidental ***...

Why Mum Must Come First (Sometimes)

Gemma Capocci - 13 Dec 16

Depression is a dick. I know this because it has featured in my family’s life in some form or another since I was seven...

“MUM” As a Diss

Lauren Laverne - 3 Jan 16

Bad news, ladyparents. “Mum” is making its way on to the long and terrible list of gender-specific terms of abuse. It’s the thin end...

Parenting Crimes I Have Committed

Clemmie Telford - 30 Sep 16

Before you have a kid you look at people with kids and think ‘i’ll never be like them’. Then you have one and it...


Georgina Fuller - 2 Mar 15

So the other day l was driving back from seeing a friend l usually see at least once a week in a town l...

Embracing The Mess

Julia Thompson - 10 Jun 17

I’ve never been on the shortlist (or anywhere near it in fact) for World’s Tidiest House – living with a self-confessed hoarder makes tidiness...

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